SB: I love animal crackers.
Me: Do you love Daniel?
SB: Yes.
Me: Do you love Daddy?
SB: Yes.
Me: Do you love pink?
SB: Yes.
Me: Do you love Grammy?
SB: Yes.
Me: Do you love Mommy?
SB: No.
Sarah Beth always says, "No," when she is asked if she loves me. I know that she does love me, so it doesn't hurt my feelings. I do think it's funny, although I don't let her see that. It bothers John, though, so he is working with her.
Last night, I decided to give Daniel the same "test." He doesn't say "yes" or "no" in response to questions; he nods or shakes his head and says "uh huh" (yes) or "uh uh" (no). We don't think he really understands yet, but he answers appropriately most of the time. Anyway, here is the conversation.
Me: Do you love Mommy?
D: uh huh
Me: Do you love Daddy?
D: loooooong pause
Me: Do you love Daddy?
D: uh huh (very quietly, almost like he didn't want to admit it)
Have you had a similar "problem" with any of your children? Sarah Beth obviously favors her Daddy, and Daniel obviously favors his Mommy. We have decided that, as soon as Baby Sister is born, we are going to family counseling to try to correct her "problem" before it starts.
I'm just kidding. I think it's fairly common for there to be a special bond between a daddy and his daughter and between a mommy and her son. That's why the two phrases "daddy's girl" and "momma's boy" exist.
Do any of your children prefer you or your spouse? What do you do about it? Or did it just go away by itself? I figure that one day Sarah Beth will discover that she does in fact love me, and one day (in the distant future) she will even come to appreciate me.
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Our kids are pretty even in their affection towards us, with a slight leaning towards myself (with the possible exception of my eldest; yes, that would be the one who had such a WONDERFUL time while I was gone on my trip:). But I attribute a lot of that to the fact that they're with me so much, though I occasionally feel just a tad bit guilty about it (which my husband thinks is a bit humorous).
I'm glad you're able to keep it in perspective Nikki. Especially while they're young. I was a Daddy's girl myself, and I happen to know it helped to keep me on the straight and narrow not wanting to let my Dad down. So I work hard to encourage my daughter in that area as well.
The boys tend to swap "favorites" as well as personalities from time to time. I'm sure that it all will change with time.
Blessings!!!!
We've never experienced that, but if it's any consolation, I don't think that they even know what the word "love" means at such a young age. I've never tried it, but I imagine that if I asked one of mine if they loved me right after a spanking, they would say no!
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