In my humble opinion (for what it's worth), I think more people are lonely than we realize. Why do I think this? Because of the women I invite over for lunch and they stay all afternoon. Because of the women who can't stop talking once they get started because they have so much to say and no one to tell.
Why are we lonely? I think there are many reasons, but here are a couple. We're so busy, too busy to spend time with people and really get to know them. We're also afraid of being vulnerable because others might reject us if they knew who we really are.
Yes, our husbands should be our friends, maybe even our best friends. But God designed us women to need fellowship from other woman -- just as our husbands need other men friends.
How do we "fix" our loneliness? I wish I knew! But I do know one thing that won't help: waiting around for someone else to seek us out, to initiate something.
You have to take charge and do something yourself. Invite someone over or out for lunch. Speak to the other mothers at your child's soccer game. Introduce yourself to another mother at story time at the library.
If you are blessed enough not to be lonely, I want to plead with you to extend your friendship to other women outside of your circle. There are women around you who need your friendship, even if you don't really need theirs.
So, are you lonely? What are you going to do about it?
I have been busy this week weaning Hannah. Well, maybe "busy" isn't quite the right word. But we've been working on it, and she's doing great. I usually take about a month to wean my babies because slow seems to work best -- at least, for me. :) I am weaning Hannah a little earlier than I usually wean, but she's losing interest in nursing: she wants to look around while eating, and it's hard to do that while nursing. Honestly, I'm amazed at how quickly she took to the bottle, especially since three of my other children refused to take a bottle.
Here are a few things I've enjoyed this week:
How quickly Hannah has adapted to drinking from a bottle.
The possibility of leaving Hannah with John or a babysitter and not worrying about her getting hungry while I'm gone. :)
I must admit that I don't enjoy washing bottles or buying formula.
Watching hummingbirds outside our kitchen window. Their amazing flight never gets old!
Having Sarah Beth's paper due a week early. I misunderstood her assignment schedule, so we worked hard to get it ready for CC, only to find out that it's not due until next week. Whoohoo! We just need to add a couple of "because clauses" (for those of you familiar with IEW), and we'll be done!
While I didn't really enjoy going to the pool on Monday, I did enjoy seeing how excited my children were and how much fun they had.
Tomorrow Sarah Beth and Daniel have soccer games, but this time they're at different times! So all of us will be able to see both games. While I'm looking forward to seeing Daniel play (since I missed his game last week), I have to admit that spending all morning in the sun at the soccer fields is going to be exhausting.
What have you enjoyed this week? What do you have planned for the weekend?
When James Holt arrives in Panama, he is given a mystery to solve: what happened to a local girl's mother who is presumed to have run away, leaving her daughter behind. However, the girl Saffire doesn't believe that, and neither does Holt. But no one will talk about the mystery, and it's obvious that something else is going on. Using the persistence he learned as a cowboy, Holt perseveres even when his life is threatened. All of this occurs with the building of the Panama Canal in the background.
First of all, I enjoyed learning more about how the Panama Canal was built, what a monumental endeavor it was. I also enjoyed the characters: Holt just wanted to get home to the Dakotas where his daughter was waiting; Saffire was a spunky, streetwise girl; and there were several others who were painted so convincingly. While the writing is excellent, I just find it frustrating how Brouwer unwraps a little bit of the puzzle at a time, making the reader (and the main character) feel like he's in the dark until the very end of the book. But I guess that's the point. :) However, the intriguing writing kept me reading, and since I've read several of Brouwer's books, I knew what to expect. I did enjoy the book, and I'm sure I'll read more by this author.
I want to thank Blogging for Books for my review copy of this book, but my opinions are my own.
Sarah Beth had her first soccer game last Saturday, and I was surprised how much I enjoyed watching her play! Honestly, I yelled myself hoarse. :) While her team didn't win, she had fun playing, and that's what it's all about anyway, isn't it?
Here are a few other things I enjoyed:
the sunny weather
spending time with my friends during lunch at CC this week
trying something new with my hair. No, I don't have any pictures, but I've enjoyed seeing what happens to it when I let it do its own thing instead of drying and straightening it.
a trip to the library. I have to admit that I enjoy the look on new librarians' faces when they see how many books we return and check out. :)
Tomorrow is Daniel's first soccer game, and it's at the same time as Sarah Beth's. So John and I will "divide and conquer," so to speak, as I watch her game and he watches Daniel's.
Since I enjoy reading about the curricula that others use in their home schools, I thought I would share what we're using in case you're interested as well. It's our sixth year to homeschool; we began when Sarah Beth was in kindergarten. I have to admit that I haven't enjoyed every single moment, but I have appreciated how much we have all learned together.
Classical Conversations. This program overarches almost everything we do. Our science and history are based on what we're learning in CC, although we're learning lots of other things, as well. This year is the fifth for Sarah Beth and Daniel, the third for Rachel, and the first for Mary. It's our second time for Cycle 2.
As part of CC, Sarah Beth is in the Essentials class where she learns how to write using Institute for Excellence in Writing and how to diagram sentences. She also practices her math facts.
Bible. We're going through Proverbs I Study Guide from Generations with Vision. Saxon Math. We've used Saxon math since Sarah Beth was in kindergarten. I appreciate how Saxon teaches math concepts with loads of review and time in-between new ideas to give children time to learn them well.
History. We're studying the Middle Ages in CC, but I wanted to supplement that. When I discovered that Heirloom Audio had a history curriculum based off The Dragon and the Raven, I snatched it up! We love these CDs, and it's fun learning more about one of them. In order to make the most of this curriculum, I'm supplementing with books from the library.
Spelling. I'm using Spelling Plus with Sarah Beth and Daniel. Science. We read books from the library to learn more about what we're studying in CC.
Sarah Beth and Daniel are playing soccer for the first time and having a wonderful time. John and I want to encourage them and help them develop some skills, so we purchased this goal for them. It arrived last Friday, and Saturday morning John told them to put it together while he went on his bike ride.
Honestly, I didn't think they would be able to do it. I figured they would come back inside after five minutes complaining how hard it was to put together. But I was busy, and I trusted John, so I left them to it.
Half an hour later, my curiosity got the better of me, and I went outside to check on them. Lo and behold! The goal was almost completely put together! I was so proud of my children.
Let me encourage you, fellow mothers, to let your children try things you don't think they can do. (And I'm talking to myself, too!) They just might surprise you! Mine sure did!
Have you had an experience like this, where your children accomplished something you didn't think they could?
This week, oh, this week! I felt like I was running behind all week! Monday is my usual day to catch up from the weekend, but when Monday is part of the weekend -- well, there goes my week!
Okay, it wasn't really that bad this week although it did feel like it at times. :)
Since John was home on Monday, he took our oldest four children out in the boat to do some crabbing. Wasn't that brave of him? :) They had a great time! And I had some time to myself!! Hannah and I ran a couple of errands and enjoyed being home by ourselves for a little while.
Thursday, Mary and Sarah Beth had an appointment with the ophthalmologist, and they did fine. But the doctor found a piece of metal in Sarah Beth's eye. It had been there long enough to rust, but it didn't do any damage. He was able to remove it, and things are fine now. Honestly, I thought he was joking at first because it was just so strange. "Your daughter has a piece of metal in her eye." What?!
Here are a few things I enjoyed this week:
A three-day weekend with John.
A little time to myself (with Hannah) on Monday.
Having Sarah Beth and Daniel vacuum and mop on Tuesday. :) Yes, I enjoyed not doing it.
Booking an appointment to have our pictures taken professionally. We haven't had professional pictures done since Daniel was a baby.
Triggers: Exchanging Parents' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake. This book is amazing! Each short chapter talks about the different things that can trigger anger in us, and then the authors give other ways to respond. The first half of the book deals with the ways that children trigger anger in us, and it gives ways we should respond instead of getting angry while still dealing with whatever triggered the anger. I wish I could buy this book for everyone I know! I think it's that good!
Tomorrow is Sarah Beth's first soccer game, and we look forward to cheering her on! What do you have planned? And what have you enjoyed this week?
First, I am a child of God, adopted into His family through the blood of His Son Jesus Christ. Second, I am helpmeet to my husband John of fifteen years. Third, I am mother to Sarah Beth who is nine years old, to Daniel who turned eight in February, to Rachel who turned six at the end of January, to Mary who turned four in December, and to Hannah who was born in February.